Neither of these pictures have anything to do with this blog.The kids are Christian, Allison, Morgan, they sure look nice. I hope someone gave them chocolate right after this picture.
I liked this picture. Fishing with Brother Ranspot was a double blessing. I wish my hunting was as successful as my fishing. sigh.
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One of the unhappiest things a pastor is to counsel a couple bound for divorce. Often there has been so much acrimony that healing is difficult and sometimes impossible. If couples would follow a few simple rules for arguing they could reduce a major injury to a minor one. It is easier to recover from a bruise than an amputation.
Creative Warfare or How to have a good fight.
1. Promise never to yell at each other. Someone has wisely said, "He who has a weak argument raises the volume". Ever notice some of the political pendants that never let the other person talk. Anyone who has to yell to make a point is dealing from a position of weakness.
2. Avoid words of war. Stupid, idiot, lazy, cheap, etc. are words that do not add to the argument and are used by the one with the weakest argument.
3. Never bring up something the other person cannot change. The one that does this has lost the argument and is trying only to hurt the spouse.
4. Never ever bring up something you have forgiven. Remember the golden rule. Do unto others, as you would have others do unto you.
5. Personal problems should be handled in private. Never argue about sexual problems in front of the children.
6. Allow the children to see honest disagreement. They will learn how to have an argument by watching you. Use your imagination and watch your kids yell, curse, strike, insult or hurt the one they have married just like their parent did.
7. KEEP IN MIND YOU PLAN ON SPENDING THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH THIS PERSON.
No dirty fighting.
If you live in the jungle among listening Indians you may need a canoe to go up-river, right Jungle Mom?
Next post "Keeping fire in the Bedroom, adults only"
HTOITA
2 comments:
I'll be copying those rules, since I constantly break them it'll serve as a reminder of just why I'm on marriage #3.
Good blog pastor, I'll be adding you to my list. Love your favorite books, any man who likes both Tolkien and Kipling is alright by me.
Those rules we all have to work on. Thank you for the return
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